My oldest goes from 0-10 so quickly, she gets frustrated easily (especially when she isn’t in control). Even after she is over her tantrum she is still upset and anxious. So we made a calming jar for her to help calm her down after one of her fits. It is part of positive “time-outs” or “time-ins” that we are doing in our house. I don’t send her to her room to be by herself, instead I am sitting with her or near her (depending on what she wants) and she gets to shake the jar to mix up all the glitter, then she sets it down and watches all the glitter until it settles at the bottom. If she is still upset she can do it again until she has found her happy self.
Since adding this into our life, the calming jar has helped in so many ways. We are needing it less and less each day and Ashlyn’s over all tantrums have gone down.
If you want to make your own calming jar (good for moms as well) they are really easy! All you need to do is:
- jar or bottle with a lid
- 1 tbsp of clear glue (or glitter glue) to each 1 cup of (hot) water to fill the jar
- add in glitter (I added about 1 inch of glitter)
- food colouring (optional)
please note: Do not, I repeat, DO NOT give this jar to your child when they are in the middle of a fit… glass and angry/upset child will likely result in this beautiful jar smashed to pieces. If you would like to make one of these for a younger child I recommend a plastic bottle or jar instead. Also weather you are using a glass or plastic container please do not leave your child unsupervised when they are using the jar. There are many sites out there with variations on how to make your own “calming jar” (as we call it in our house) or “mind jar“.